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“People have a hard time letting go of their suffering. Out of a fear of the unknown, they prefer suffering that is familiar.”
~ Thich Nhat Hanh
Spring is finally here!
A time of new life, regrowth, seemingly fresher air, and spring cleaning.
Along with the seasonal change, I have changed my website layout.
Fresh layout, fresh ideas!
Spring cleaning can be literal or metaphorical, and in this post I’m geared toward the metaphorical… or the spring cleaning of my mental, emotion, spiritual house.
Change/cleaning isn’t always easy, unless I want change to happen. Then suddenly I’m all for it! Alternatively, I’ve found that it can be “easier” to hold on to destructive energy’s, be it a friendship, partnership, behavior, attitude, habit, etc. than to adopt a new way of living.
Of course it isn’t easier, at least not in the long run.
Resisting or refusing change, in itself, is okay. I don’t HAVE to let go of ANYTHING I don’t want to. That’s just it though, being honest with myself that it’s a choice; it’s my choice to not let go of or change (myself/situation), is key.
No one else makes me do or say or believe, or act a certain way.
I choose to stay, go, change, adapt, hold on to, resist, give in, allow, let go of, restrict, etc.
When I see and understand my part (my choices/behaviors), AND take responsibility for them, the situation becomes easier to handle/change, and often times people become easier to communicate with. Why is this? Because when I take what I am rightly responsible for, being careful to not take too little, which will make me a victim, and not take too much, which will make me a martyr, my options become much clearer. I’ve found that when I do this I can make decisions based on clarity rather than “guilt” or “obligation”.
No more “they made me” or “they’re the reason I feel/act/am this way”. It’s all poppycock! I choose my feelings, behavior, attitudes.
That being said, there are situations and tragedies in life that do attribute to my sadness, grief, anger, resentment, etc. This is my humanness. What I do with these emotions/life situations is my choice. If I hold onto these emotions, become destructive over time, and blame my behavior on it, then I have something worth looking at.
It’s important for me to remember: only I can make ME act. What I accept is what I allow. Healing takes time, lots of it!
I’m learning Boundaries. I’m learning.
All of this, is just my opinion.
What can I take responsibility for today? What are some energy’s in my life that could use a change (for the better)?